me + communication degree = bad communication

A few years ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine, she was a psychology major. She made the comment "Most psychology majors get into psychology to subconsciously fix themselves."

It is not to say that this is true for all... but I started doing process of elimination of the psychology majors I knew... and realized, a good deal of them I would never trust to give me any kind of advice or even trust them to listen to me.

But that generalization about psychology majors seems to be true for Communication majors. Communication majors seem to have an awfully difficult time at communication. We understand how communication works and we can read people based on our knowledge. After all that shouldn't I be a master at communicating?

There is a sender and a receiver, there is a channel between the two and everything in the middle is considered noise. Very much like a puzzle and considerably similar to the game "telephone."

And to be honest, that's only the beginning-- then there is the psychology and theories and assumptions... it never ends.

The problem is, I'm still a separate entity outside of my brains knowledge on the subject matter.

I'm great at communicating for other people. But any communication having to do with me, is rather a grueling task.

Ask anyone who is close friends with me. It's a treat, most don't know that they have to learn a separate language when dealing with me. But then you have two of my best friends, Jess and Lor and they know exactly what I'm thinking without me having to say anything.

I'm not very good at communicating feelings... or plans. For plans, I sometimes feel like they should just happen.  But, I forget-- the world doesn't always work like that.

I was having a conversation last night and we were discussing  spontaneity and what that really means for us. You have some of the best memories from those moments but also, since nothing was planned-- the disappointment factor isn't really in the agenda. In spontaneous outbursts-- there are no expectations no hidden attachments. It is what it is, and if it fails at least you tried.

Que sera, sera. 

While, on the other hand when you expect a plan to happen at a given time and date and it doesn't happen according to plan... it becomes wearing.  

waiting. waiting. waiting. WAITING.

"He who keeps a royal command experiences no trouble, for a wise heart knows the proper time and procedure. For there is a proper time and procedure for every delight, though a man's trouble is heavy upon him. If no one knows what will happen, who can tell him when it will happen? "

                                        -Ecclesiastes 8:5-6

I guess you could call it a defense mechanism but also you could call it a recipe for adventure.

Let's shoot for adventure.

Sitting under a tree and a couple of leaves start falling. Leaves typically land close. It's relaxing to know where you're grounding is. But, imagine sitting under a tree and you see a helicopter (or whirlybird) fall from the tree. Honestly, you have no idea where it is going to land, depending on the wind and depending how it falls will give you an idea of the journey. It's a more freeing concept.

love these girls.